How I Danced Away My Fear

Last Saturday night I called my friends to go out dancing and nobody was available.

I was bummed because I really wanted to go out, and my intuition was nudging me to dance. I couldn’t bear staying in another night, zoning out to The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills.

I had a choice: take myself out dancing, or stay on the couch and ignore my intuition.

My ego piped in with all sorts of questions…Am I a loser if I go dancing by myself? What will people think? Will I look pathetic? What’s a 34 year-old woman doing out alone at the clubs on a Saturday night amidst 23 year-olds?

Before my ego completely took over, I got into action: I jumped in the shower, put on my favorite dress, and called an Uber.

The Uber dropped me off at the jazz club, El Chaputepec, and it was packed. The Rockies game had just let out and apparently everyone was in the mood for jazz. The live band was okay but it wasn’t the soul-riveting saxophone jazz I had hoped for.

I dipped out and headed across the street to Cowboy Lounge, a favorite go-to club for country music. I walked in, paid the $5 cover, took a deep breath, and smiled as I heard Garth Brooks’ song “Ain’t Going Down (‘Til the Sun Comes Up)” playing on the dance floor… was music to my ears, and I felt butterflies of excitement.

The moment I walked onto the dance floor, my uptight ego was drowned out by speakers blasting honky tonk guitar. As the music coursed through my body, “What will people think?” turned to “Who the hell cares, I love this song!”

My fear was replaced by the pure joy of doing what I love…dancing my a%$ off.

For the next 3 hours, I danced by myself, danced with partners, danced on the stage, and danced over to the bar to get water.

I stayed until the club lights came on, and went home tired, happy, and proud of myself for stepping outside my comfort zone and going out alone.

When I get an intuitive nudge, it’s guidance to do something good for my soul. My intuition guides me to challenge old beliefs, so I can evolve and grow and become the woman I’m meant to.

The result of NOT following my intuitive nudges? Stuck energy, unhappiness, feeling sorry for myself, and the depressing feeling of stifling my soul’s growth by letting fear run the show.

Dancing is good for my soul and my intuition knows that. Pre-Saturday night, my ego was latched onto the old belief that I need my friends to go out dancing and have fun.

My new belief is that I can go out dancing alone and have fun, and most importantly, I’M RESPONSIBLE FOR MY OWN JOY AND CAPABLE OF MAKING MYSELF HAPPY. It’s empowering and liberating to know that. 

I’d love to hear from you…..what is something in your life that you feel called to do but it’s outside your comfort zone?

Those intuitive nudges lead us to face our fears and that’s a good thing. By trying something new, we change our beliefs, and by changing our beliefs, we change our lives.

So, go out, and try something new….you’ll surprise yourself!

You can find me on the dance floor,


6 replies
  1. Terrie Curry
    Terrie Curry says:

    Smiled and laughed at your blog! Last weekend I was craving dancing and singing so danced in my living room and sang in the shower! Time to move my sweet ass beyond my condo. An update: Since I last saw you (3 years ago??) I published my book, upleveled from a 2 year R with a brain surgeon, lived on east coast for a year, made a beautiful pilgrimage to southern India, and entered final year of a bodywork training program in NYC. Am back in Denver now! Being deliciously tempted by your CO retreat Sept 20 – 23rd. Also wanting time with nature and your horses so a session is closely at hand. Nice to reconnect and see the amazing possibilities you are creating! — Terrie

    • Devon
      Devon says:

      Terrie! It’s wonderful to hear from you. It made me smile to read that you danced in your living room and sang in the shower…heck YES! I love seeing your update and proud of you for publishing your book (that was the last time we connected) and then to read what else you have gone on to do…WOW. It sounds like you are following your inner compass and living in alignment with what makes your soul happy. That’s what it’s all about! I’m excited to reconnect with you (I’m living in Denver too) and you should join us at the CO retreat, it’s where “ranch” meets “spa”….you’d love it. Really look forward to crossing trails again soon! XO

    • Devon
      Devon says:

      I’m glad this resonated for you, Loree! Keep following your intuition and allow it to guide you. Thanks for your sharing 🙂

  2. Mary C Collins
    Mary C Collins says:

    Walking into Chaputepec by yourself!!! Wow! I was at a party last week and despite not having practiced for 3 weeks I got out my guitar and sang 4 songs at my hostess request! People loved it and I didn’t care that I missed a few words and chords!! Look forward to your October retreat and so enjoying riding again with Tara!!
    Mary c

    • Devon
      Devon says:

      Hi Mary, that’s awesome that you got out your guitar and sang 4 songs at the party! I didn’t know you played the guitar and sang 🙂 I love hearing that you JUST DID IT and didn’t care that you missed a few chords. That’s what it’s all about….going for it when the nudge hits, and letting go of perfectionism. Proud of you and can’t wait to see you in Arizona at the Unbridled Retreat. We are going to have a blast! Maybe you’ll bring your guitar?! xo


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