Frequently Asked Questions

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What is the age range of retreat participants?

Our past retreat participants have ranged in age from 21 to 84. Unbridled Retreats are designed to support and inspire women and men in every stage of adult life.

 

How many participants attend a retreat?

Each retreat is limited to a maximum of 12 participants. This small group size creates an intimate setting and allows for personalized attention, ensuring a truly transformative experience.

 

What happens at an Unbridled Retreat?

While each retreat has slight variations in the itinerary, the core schedule remains consistent across all locations, ensuring a transformative and empowering experience. You can click here to view a sample schedule.

 

Can I attend alone?

Absolutely! Most of our retreat participants are solo travellers, so you’ll be in great company. Our retreats foster a warm and welcoming atmosphere where meaningful connections naturally unfold.

 

Is it possible for my family/spouse to share my room if they don’t attend the retreat?

The equine coaching sessions involve deep personal reflection, and having quiet time in your room will help you fully process everything covered during the retreat. We recommend leaving your loved ones at home so you can fully embrace the retreat experience, focus on yourself, and enjoy the maximum benefits of this time for personal growth.

 

Does each retreat provide the same experience?

Yes! While the locations may vary, the heart of the Unbridled Retreats experience remains the same. We maintain high standards to ensure each guest enjoys a personalized, transformative journey and leaves feeling empowered and ready to take their next steps.

 

Are meals included?

Yes. All meals are included. Enjoy gourmet, nourishing meals along with non-alcoholic beverages. Some ranches/resorts include select alcoholic beverages; others offer them for separate purchase.

 

Do I need horse experience?

Not at all! Our retreats are designed for all experience levels, whether you’re new to horses, haven’t ridden in years, or are an experienced rider. No prior horse experience is required, and every ranch/resort provides friendly, safe horses for every riding level.

 

Do I have to participate in every activity?

The morning Equine Coaching sessions are the core of the retreat and are highly encouraged. Please note that Equine Coaching sessions are unmounted (no riding involved). Beyond that, you can tailor your experience with optional afternoon activities, including horseback rides, relaxing by the pool, journaling, enjoying a massage, or going for a scenic walk.

Letting Go of What Was, and Accepting What Is

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This picture of Detail and I was taken 3 years ago. I keep posting it to remember the good old days before lameness took over.


Detail’s been off for over a year now. We’ve tried changing vets, changing farriers, ultrasounds, Platelet Rich Plasma injections, arthritis medications, corrective shoeing, chiropractic adjustments, Reiki, the list goes on…

Last night I went out to the pasture and scratched Detail in her favorite spots. She stood there and rocked back and forth encouraging me to scratch different places. I wept and told her I’m sorry. Sorry she’s hurting. Sorry I can’t fix it. And that I’m 100% committed to doing whatever it takes to help her feel better. I sat down on the ground and she walked up to me and put her heart to my head as she always does. That hasn’t changed.

Maybe my relationship with Detail is supposed to be more literally grounded at this point. Less flying across the fields; more easy walks on the trail. I know there’s truth to that, but it hurts like hell to think of letting go of our gallops through the pastures. Detail loved to run, and feeling her unbridled power was my definition of freedom.

At 35, I’m figuring out what freedom means now. Who am I, if I’m not the wild, free-spirited woman galloping bareback in a dress with my four-legged best friend? My ego loves attaching my identity to that visual image.

I’m learning freedom means letting go of my ego’s attachment to what was, surrendering to what is, and making space for what will be. 

I will do everything in my power to help Detail get better and then it’s up to God. That’s when the tears come because I can’t control the outcome.

When I stop fighting and resisting the way things are, I feel calmer. My tears have been released, and I surrender. In the surrender, there’s acceptance. Accepting that it’s a new chapter for us.

Detail is continuing to teach me to become unbridled, to let go, to stop trying to control what’s out of my control. My new definition of freedom isn’t galloping bareback, but letting go what was, accepting what is, and making space for what will be.

By accepting, I feel free,

Devon

Have you ever struggled to accept a “new norm” with a beloved friend? I’d love to hear from you, please share in the comments below.

How to get back in the saddle after falling hard…for a cowboy

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I’m not usually one to fall when it comes to horses or men…it takes a lot to jolt me out of the saddle or jolt my romantic heart. However, I crossed trails with a cowboy and I was swept off my feet. I had an instant connection with this man, a soul connection.

He understood my passion for horses and my desire to make a difference in the world. He shared that same passion and our values were deeply aligned. Our conversations were effortless and there was a lot of head nodding in agreement and knowing smiles. We began seeing each other more and the sweet texts began. When country love songs on the radio played, he would text me the lyrics.

He brought me flowers and told me I deserved flowers every day.

I was smitten and felt like I had finally arrived at the gates of L-O-V-E.

He trailered his horse to the ranch and would go on long rides complete with a picnic packed in the saddle bags.

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At the risk of sounding like a Harlequin Romance novel, we literally did ride off into the sunset together.

This man spoke to my soul.

I fell hard, and the rest of the world ceased to exist. I’d found what I’d been looking for. We became exclusive in short amount of time; felt like the natural thing to do.

I was living in a dream.

It’s rare that I open my heart to someone so quickly, become exclusive and trust where the trail takes me. But I did it and all the sudden the fun left and he pulled back like a horse tied too tightly.

The phone calls and sweet texts died off as did his soothing charms. I was crushed, anxious, confused and hurt.

He rode away and pulled the rug out from beneath me.

I fell again and this time it fu*&ing hurt.

Horses have taught me so much in my life. That being vulnerable and authentic are a gift. I’ve embraced that my softer side doesn’t equal weakness. Underneath my tough girl exterior I’m a romantic at heart.  With the cowboy, my walls were down and my heart was soft, tender and vulnerable. Maybe that was too much for him. But it was me being me. I spent too many years trying to mold myself into what I thought men wanted. No more of that.

Take me as I truly am or leave me. And he left me, ouch.

Being a lifelong horsewoman has also taught me this: When you fall down, you MUST get back in the saddle. Before the fear set in. The paralyzing fear of getting dumped and hurt again. So slowly, I climbed back up and dusted myself off.

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Here’s what helped:

Top 10 ways to get back in the saddle

1. Call my mom and cry.

2. Take long walks with my steadfast and loving male companion, Namo, my dog.

3. Avoid listening to country love songs, especially “Cowboys and Angels” by Dustin Lynch.

4. Kick up my heels and dance my a$% off with girlfriends.

5. Gallop like there’s no tomorrow (ex-racehorse Thoroughbreds are highly recommended).

6. Read Caroline Myss’s book Soul Contracts, relentlessly.

7. Cherish the friendships I have in my life.

8. Put self-care first and make journaling, healthy food and lavender Epsom salt baths a priority.

9. Put my heels down, keep my chin up and my heart open.

10. Trust the process of this wild ride called Life.

Can you relate? Have you ever fallen hard in a relationship that didn’t work out? What helped you “dust off” and get back up? I’d love to hear your experiences and comments below.

Back in the saddle and always learning,

Devon