Sarcasm to avoid intimacy

I was going to write about the beautiful snow this morning but something else is on the forefront. What’s going on is I like a guy. His name is “J” and he has big muscles and writes poetry. Yesterday he shared some of his poetry with me and it was deep. Thoughtful. Spoke right to my heart.

This morning I thought of him and wanted to send a text, to let him know I was thinking about him without sounding TOO much like I was thinking about him.

I wrote, “Good morning ( blushing smiling emoji), I hope you have a great day and stay warm” and then I changed it and added some sarcasm; my go-t0, protective mechanism used by clever, funny, sarcastic, avoids-intimacy Devon. Yuck. It’s my default, to protect my heart when I start to like someone.

That’s what I noticed this morning. The beautiful snow, the fact I like “J”, and my old coping mechanism where I lead with my humor instead of my heart. 

“Sarcasm helps keep you from telling people what you really think of them.”

    -Author Unknown

Have you ever used sarcasm to avoid intimacy? I’d love to hear about it….post in the comments below.

Self-awareness realizations on a snowy Monday morning in Littleton,


4 replies
  1. Misty
    Misty says:

    Absolutely…probably too much…It definitely is my defense mechanism…my wall. If I add a little then I may not look as vulnerable and I feel..
    Hate to admit it.

    • Devon
      Devon says:

      Hi Misty, I appreciate your comment. Ahh, yes, the “wall”….a powerful mechanism to protect from looking and feeling vulnerable. You are courageous to share that, and I applaud your authenticity. Thank you for reminding us all that we are NOT alone. xoxo


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